forgiveness

If Only

10 Jul 2013

Have you ever had a problem you just couldn’t change? You know what I’m talking about; stuff like that extra twenty pounds you just can’t seem to keep off or credit card debt that never goes away or a relationship that makes you feel devastated every time you think of it.

For me it was chronic financial stress. I was constantly worried and focused on money and having enough just to pay for the basics. I felt a level of anxiety every time I opened my checkbook. I was caught up in the idea that “if only” I could make a certain amount of income, everything in my life would become easier and I then I could be happy.

Making money and financial security became my focus, my idol.
Money became my source for the peace and joy I was seeking.
I realized I made money and financial security my source instead of God

An idol is a construct or focus you pour energy into because you believe it is a source for what you want: identity, power, love, money, peace, relationships, etc.

Idols separate you from direct, divine connection to God.

The only way to heal any problem is from knowing your divine source.

Because I am loved, valued and worthy, I can heal.

Problems that don’t heal: money problems, chronic dieting, chronic relationship distress, depression and chronic physical problems are very likely a form of idolatry. You pour loads of energy and attention into a problem in the hope that solving the problem will make you more worthy, more loved, more acceptable.

All your energy and power is poured into this “problem” that never seems to resolve. It is like a huge tornado that just spins all your excess effort and energy around in a circle, never really moving forward or changing.

It is an idol when it becomes the source to get you what you really want rather than God as the source.

Forgiveness statements:

I forgive myself for idolizing money as my source for all I desire.
I forgive myself for idolizing what I have (family, house, etc) as the source of my happiness and fulfillment.
I forgive myself for idolizing all that I do not have or all that I see others possess as the source of my happiness and fulfillment.
I give myself permission to tear down this idol to money and I am no longer separated from all the love, value and worthiness I ever wanted. It’s already mine.
I forgive myself for using this idolatry of family as a source to heal depression and fear that I will never get what I really want in my relationships.
I give myself permission to tear down this idol, and I am free to stop pouring excess energy into an empty tornado of futile discussion and thoughts.
Without this idol I am no longer separated from God.

Discover the idols in your life with the phrase, “If only. . . .”

I had more money. . . .I would be important and valued
I had a better body and was prettier. . . . . .others would love me
My marriage was perfect. . . .I could love and accept myself

Please post your comments about the idols you have torn down in your life and how it has made your life better.

Who Gets Cancer?

3 Jul 2013

Here is some very compelling research describing the personality traits that increase one’s chances for developing cancer.

If you or someone you love have a high number of these traits, you can decrease your chance for developing cancer with EPTworks™ and emotional healing. By releasing emotional and physical trauma and changing your beliefs, you can increase your assertiveness and ownership of your power to be honest and open about your needs and the practical fulfillment of those needs without the fear or avoidance of conflict.

The most important fact you need to know about cancer: Of all the people who are diagnosed with cancer; the majority survive.

Cancer Personality

The presence of traumas was important in assessing the risk of cancer and the possibility of a poor prognosis. In his study of 250 patients diagnosed with malignancy, LeShan (1956) noted that a childhood trauma was present in 62% of the cancer patients, and in only 10% of the control group. He concluded that an early emotional trauma increased the risk of cancer later in life. Such trauma would supposedly lead to an increase in tension towards one or both parents. Later, LeShan included the presence of a childhood trauma as one of the psychological indicators for predicting cancer development.

Later, LeShan (1977) reconfirmed his initial findings. He studied the life histories of 500 patients. One of the typical patterns identified was childhood trauma. Such trauma included feelings of isolation, neglect, difficult, dangerous or intense interpersonal relationships, parental deprivation and coldness. He noticed that 76% of the cancer patients showed such patterns in their past, and had also recently experienced an emotional loss. Traumatic patterns were relived through the recent emotional loss, which influenced cancer growth.

A 1946 Johns Hopkins University study: “Our results appear to agree with findings that cancer patients tend to deny and repress conflictual impulses and emotions to a higher degree than do other people.”

Certain personality features increase the risk of cancer because they are more likely to generate physiological stress.

Repression, the inability to say “no”, and a lack of awareness of one’s anger make it much more likely that a person will find herself in situations where her emotions are unexpressed, her needs are ignored and her gentleness exploited.
Extremely co-operative
Patient
Passive
Lacking assertiveness
Accepting
Represses negative emotions especially anger while struggling to maintain a strong, happy façade—denial of negative emotions.
The external appearance of a nice or good person
A suppression of reactions that may offend others
Avoidance of conflict
Chronically hopeless and helpless, even though it is not consciously recognized, in the sense that the person basically believes that it is useless to express one’s needs: the needs will not or cannot be met by the environment.

If you know someone who could benefit from this information, please share it.

Take a minute to share how you may have changed these traits in your lifetime and how it has influenced your health and healing.

Knowing this will make you a GENIUS healer!

27 Jun 2013

I was on a road trip and happened to be reading Barbara Brennan’s book Light Emerging. I was reading her chapter on the seven stages of healing. I had an incredible “aha moment” as I realized this information explained why I could have two different patients with the same symptoms and totally different outcomes.

I may have two patients with right leg pain (sciatica). One patient responds to my brilliant care in one treatment having no more pain. I feel like a genius doctor who can fix this problem in anyone but the next patient with this same problem comes in and I can’t get any change or healing to occur. After learning the seven stages of healing I understood why.

Seven Stages of Healing

Denial: “There’s nothing wrong with me.” “It’s normal to have headaches.” “Everyone has problems like this.”
Anger: “Why me?” “This isn’t fair.” “I don’t deserve this problem.” “I hate this pain.” “Someone else is to blame.”
Bargain: “Okay, I’ve been bad and now I need to change so this will stop or go away.” “I will do what the doctor say as long as I’m guaranteed to get rid of this.” “I’ll get surgery if it will make it better.” “I’ll take 100 vitamins and do colonics every day if it will make it better.” “I hate my life so I have to fix it.”
Depression: “It doesn’t matter what I do, nothing gets better.” “I’m stuck with this problem.” “It will never go away.”
Acceptance: “I feel better.” “Things are getting better.” “I still have a way to go but I feel hope.” “I love my life so I know it will change.”
Light Emerging: “Things in my life are changing rapidly.” “Some days I think nothing has changed but then I see a lot of things have changed.” “New people are coming into my life.” “Things in my life are changing rapidly.” “I feel the meaning of let go, let God.”
Creation of New Life: “I am solidly placed in a completely new scenario in my life.” “There are new people and things.” “I am excited at the prospect of learning new ways of being and living my life in this new place.”

So here’s the genius part: The patient who healed was in “Light Emerging”. The patient I couldn’t help heal was in “Depression”. Use muscle testing to determine what stage of healing your client is in with a particular problem. The ones in “Acceptance”, “Light Emerging” and “Creation of New Life” will get better with very little effort on your part.

For the others, in “Denial”, “Anger”, “Bargain” or “Depression”; use EPTworks™ to quickly reveal and release what it holding them back. Voila! You too, can be a genius healer!

Think about a problem you would like to heal and determine what stage of healing you are in with that problem. Your decision to heal will take you on a road trip to “Creation of New Life”. Enjoy the journey!

Much gratitude to Barbara Brennan for her great contribution to this work!

I would love to hear how you have used the stages of healing to increase the focus and speed of healing in your life or in helping others. Please leave a comment below.

EPTworks™ is More by Sherry Hamilton

16 May 2013

EPTworks more — Photo by Jenn Ocken Photography

More that just making a bad feeling go away.

That point in time when you can’t locate that pain you’ve carried and depended on for a point of reference is what I sought after. For my own pain and now for others who I’ve helped walk through the EPTworks process for 20 years. There is that definite point in the process when the pain ceases, and there is a relief.

But what comes after the bad feeling or pain is gone?

A new identity.

One woman I worked on who had carried a constant headache for over 25 years, said, “I’ll go home a new wife to my husband tonight.” She left in sort of a daze. I was also amazed and intrigued that she never came to me again after that life-altering experience. She paid her bill and left. Emotions and the expression of love is the focus of EPTworks, not just the ceasing of pain. Lives change when pain ceases. When your pain has consumed so much attention, but now it’s not there is an odd place for many.

How you change your life in loving others is a completely new place when the pain ceases. Some just go away because they used their pain to serve an internal need to isolate from intimacy in relationships. Recognizing the resistance in myself to grow from

helplessness to helper;

self-justification to forgiveness;

limits on pleasure and gratitude to thankfulness in all things

is the greater shift away from pain. This is more than letting go, but beginning something new and growing into a new experience that glorifies our Creator. It feels great! Seeing the process and going toward the points of resistance is important in EPTworks. It becomes an amazing journey of self-awareness and courage to see that what I thought held me in it’s power no longer does. Some statements for moving toward resistance to healing pain:

I forgive myself for believing I can’t live without this pain.
I forgive myself for using this pain as a block to my intimacy with others.
I forgive myself for depending on pain to express what I am unable or unwilling to express verbally.
I forgive myself for taking on pain as my expression of what I cannot make right for myself or for someone else.
I give others permission to forgive me for using my pain to keep me from intimacy with them.
I give myself permission to open up to a new feeling of compassion and intimacy with myself and to allow for the beginning of greater love and intimacy in my life and in my relationships.

Guest blogger: Sherry Hamilton

What Do You Really Do?

8 May 2013

“In the last century more amazing things were found out than in any century before. In this new century hundreds of things still more astounding will be brought to light. At first, people refuse to believe that a strange new thing can be done, then they begin to hope it can be done, then they see it can be done–then it is done and all the world wonders why it was not done centuries ago.”
-Frances Hodgson Burnett from The Secret Garden.

EPTworks is this amazing healing tool that I use to help others and I teach them to help others the same way. While this amazing tool involves some crazy, unconventional things like magnets, muscle response testing and guided forgiveness—-those things are just the “how” of what I do.

How this magnificent healing takes place is really insignificant to the “why” of what I do. So it really boils down to this:

I heal broken hearts and I teach others to do the same thing,
SO you can be happier in your life.
SO you can love and accept yourself more.
SO you can feel better and live longer.
SO you can have better relationships.
SO you can make this world a more loving place.

Transforming Worry, Anxiety and Stress into Peace and Calm

5 May 2013

The Serenity Prayer:

Martin Rossman, M.D. Author of “The Worry Solution”, explains how to assess and direct your mental thoughts about worry so as to reduce unnecessary anxiety and stress. He explains that imagination is a powerful, creative force. Worry is that imaginative force gone awry or without properly guided direction. Worry usually looks to the past or future to fuel it. It can take over and direct our feelings cascading the body with chemical directives into fear, anxiety, and immobility. When we understand how the brain learns and processes, then we can use that information to harness our own imaginative self and direct the feelings and the chemical responses that reduce anxiety and stress rather than encourage it. This takes education of how the system works, practice of directed thinking and acknowledging new experiences of peace and calmness.

Part of Dr. Rossman’s process is to separate “good” productive worry from “bad” futile worry. He uses the “Serenity Prayer” in his speech, “How Your Brain Can Turn Anxiety into Calmness” as a guide to show a simple way to do this. You make three buckets for your worry:

Bucket 1: “Things I Can Change”
Bucket 2: “Things I Cannot Change”
Bucket 3: “Things I’m Not Sure About My Power To Change Or Effect”

To access the serenity or peace, you have to also access courage and wisdom. These things do not come when fear and anxiousness are in the mind. Taking some rest time and using the imagination can clear your thinking. Your imagination used with laser, focused direction can change the chemicals that are producing anxiousness into chemicals that are producing peaceful, calm feelings.

Dr. Rossman gives the example that if you have a friend who is sick with cancer and you are worried about her possible death, you don’t know the outcome and there doesn’t seem to be any way for you to help. So, your worry goes around and around. He suggests that you might not help her, but you can help yourself reduce your anxious, futile worrying by using your imagination. Think about what you want to happen with your friend and focus on your desired outcome. Having a focus on a desired outcome will reduce anxiety in the mind. The mind-body tends to go where you focus. This is a disciplined approach to thinking especially if you have lived with or worked with a “worry wart.” You know who they are, and you don’t want to be one! If you are one, then have the courage to change your brain!

EPTworks is an indispensable system used by trained practitioners to quickly clear the mind of unconscious or conscious clutter getting in the way of focused thinking. It works on multiple levels of the emotional body at the same time, creating an efficient, effective, and multidimensional approach that causes chemical changes and emotional shifts. That’s why people feel the good effects of EPTworks often in the very first session! The book of James 1:5 in the New Testament states: “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” Also in James 5: 16 “The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”

Guest blogger Sherry Hamilton

Speech link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KYJdekjiAog&feature=youtube_gdata_player

The Worry Solution link: http://worrysolution.com/

Serenity Prayer link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer

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