Emotional Healing

Manifesting What You Really Want In Your Life (Part 4)

17 Feb 2013

Once you have clearly defined exactly “where you are” and “where you want to be”, you can begin to take better actions to get you to your “new destination” in the fastest, most enjoyable way possible. Remember, getting to “where you want to be” is about focus. Nick Pfennigwerth tells his readers,

“Properly focusing your mind is the number one most important factor you can master when it comes to manifesting money or anything else that you can imagine.”

To drive from Indianapolis to Boston takes virtually the same skills as it will take you to drive from “where you are” to “where you want to be. You must:

Take your focus off Indianapolis. Take your focus/energy off “problems”, where you feel “stuck” or where you have been “stuck” in the past. Shift your energy of focus away from your current “pain” or failure. Give up the stories you keep telling yourself about why you can’t “have it” or “feel it”. Change from, “This is what I have to do” to “This is what I get to do.”
Focus on Boston. Focus on where you want to be as though you are already there. You fet to “feel” it before it happens. You get to manifest the new awesome feelings before you get to where you want to be.
Take action. You decide to take new action to get to “where you want to be”. That action eventually crosses you over the gap between “where you are” and “where you want to be.

EPTworks is an amazing tool that quickly identifies and releases the emotional scarring that holds your internal focus in the past and keeps you circling around “Indianapolis”.

Manifesting What You Really Want in Your Life (Part 3)

15 Feb 2013

In my last post, I walked you through getting clarity on “where you are”. These descriptions of how you currently experience your business or work represent your minds internal representations of what your business is. Due to the huge amount of attention you may be giving to your current internal representations, you are powerfully recreating exactly what you have come to know on a daily basis. Isn’t it great to know, there is nothing wrong with you? You are powerfully creating your current existence over and over again based on the internal representations you created and installed. Be compassionate with yourself. You have stuck with the only things you have known and without even being aware, you have recreated these things in your life over and over.

Did you get that? Things aren’t happening to you. You are creating what is happening. You create what is happening by where you place your mind’s attention. If you want to discover where you are putting your mind’s attention, just look at where you are. If you are in chronically in debt or cash poor that is an indication that your internal unconscious attention is fixed on debt and poverty. You don’t need more money. You need greater awareness. You have to take your focus off what you know or have known and fix your focus on what you have not known.

When you understand how our brains and neurological filing systems work, then you realize that creating something you don’t know and shifting your attention from what you know to what you don’t know is nothing short of miraculous.

Because, up until now you have mostly created what you know, it is a lot easier to get clarity on “where you are”. Now it is time to get clarity on “where you want to be”. We’ll call that Boston. Let’s say you don’t know anything about Boston but you want to go there. You can only imagine Boston in comparison to where you have been or where you are. This is an example of how you may put attention on Indianapolis and what you know about Indianapolis when you think of Boston—because you don’t know Boston. In describing exactly where you want to be in your business, it can be difficult to create something new, that isn’t just defined by opposing where you are. It is possible to dream a bigger dream, to step out of what you know into what God knows for your life. I’ve warned you this can be more challenging, but I believe in you. You can do it.

Start writing your list describing where you choose to be in your business.

How many hours per week do you work?
What is your annual business income?
What are your annual business expenses? (or what percentage of business income is expense related)
How much do you pay yourself? Include business perks as well.
What is your biggest “problem” in your business that prevents you from expanding into more success?
What do you love in your business? What kind of people do you have as clients?
What is most exciting about your business?
Do you enjoy your business “where you want it to be”?
What would make your business “where you want it to be” more enjoyable for you?
What do you LOVE about this business?
What do you FEAR about this business?

When you finish this list, you will have defined “Where you are” and “Where you want to be”. Good job!! You may notice there is a gap between these two locations. All you need to cross that gap are the same skills you already use to drive from Indianapolis to Boston.

In part 4 of Manifesting What You Really Want in Your Life I’ll explain how you can cross that “gap” in the fastest most enjoyable way possible.

Penny Langley is a masterful facilitator at EPTworks Business Works Retreat. Her expertise is in helping people connect to their bigger dream, the one they have not known and to connect people to the financial reality that exists in their dream. Consider joining Penny and I for an amazing Retreat that will open you up to the amazing business you are dreaming of and position you on the path to manifest your business dream.

EPTworks Business Works takes place in Indianapolis March 1-3.

Manifesting What You Really Want in Your Life (part 2)

14 Feb 2013

Before you can start manifesting what you want, you have to get crystal clear on exactly what you are currently manifesting. Get very specific about where you are existing in your business and money right now. Make a list describing where you are. To make this list, think about what you put your attention on. What is your current “focus” or energy on? How much do you pay yourself? Include your business perks like trips or business clothing, free services or any other business perks you can think of.

What phrases do you say over and over about your business? “I need more clients.” “I don’t have enough money.”“I can’t pay myself.”“This is too hard.”“People can’t afford me.” “People don’t trust me.” “People don’t want to pay me.” “I’m too expensive.” “No one in my area gets it.” “I need to advertise.” “I’m afraid.” “This is never getting better.”

Who do you see in your business that you love and enjoy the most?

What do you enjoy the most about your business?

Do you spend time thinking about how much service your clients can afford?

What is your biggest “problem” in your business that prevents it from being a success?

How do you feel “emotionally” about your business growing? This is how you “feel” right now in you current business, thinking about growing or expanding your business.

What phrases do you say over and over about this? “My business will never be successful.” “I don’t know how to make it happen.” “I don’t have time for more.” “I don’t know how to do it.” “I don’t deserve money or success.” “I have to work harder to deserve more.” “I have to be perfect to deserve more.”

What do you LOVE in your business right now?

What gives you PAIN or FEAR in your business right now?

It is very important to be in the space you are in. You must get crystal clear on where you are and where you are going to chart the best way to get there. Spend a little time to describe where you currently “live” in your business. We’ll call that location, Indianapolis. This is your current location–how you exist and what you recognize to identify as your current business and business experience.

The thoughts you hold for your current business are your mind’s internal representation of where you are when you are at work. By identifying these internal representations of your business, you open your awareness to let them go for a new experience of how you do business.

In part three of this blog series, Manifesting What You Really Want in Your Life, we will get clarity on where you want to be and why clarity and focus on this is necessary to arriving at your new location.

One of the best writers I have seen on this subject of manifesting, Nick Pfennigwerth writes

From my experience and interviewing many successful people on this planet, properly focusing your mind is the number one most important factor that you can master when it comes to manifesting money or anything else that you can imagine.

How you direct and use your focus is completely responsible for the results you get in life.

When I talk about focus, I am referring to your conscious attention and your internal representations, which are all one in the same.

At EPTworks Business Works Retreat, we use EPTworks to help you to master the focus your mind on what you really want, making your journey from where you are in business to where you want to be an easy, more fun and enjoyable journey.

EPTworks Business Works takes place March 1-3 in Indianapolis. Find details at EPTworks.com

Manifesting What You Really Want in Your Life (Part 1)

11 Feb 2013

EPTworks seminars has an amazing seminar retreat geared for manifesting the business success of your dreams. Business Works is designed to help you to get from where you are in your business, to where you want to be in your business in the shortest amount of time possible. Business Works is also designed to make your journey more enjoyable and magical than you ever imagined. The truth is, if you can make a successful road trip let’s say from Indianapolis to Boston, you already have all the skills you need to make this journey from where you are to where you want to be.

Necessary skills to go from where you are to where you want to be.

You have to know exactly where you are and where you are going.
You have to decide to commit to the journey. “I’m going to drive from Indianapolis to Boston.”
You have to believe you can do it. “I can make the journey.” “I can change my location.”
You have to put your attention on “Boston” and why you want to go there and all the fun things you will do there. If you put your attention on your fears in the journey; such as how a car may cross the center line and have a head on collision or how you may not have enough money to do what you really want; you may never leave Indianapolis.
You have to be willing to take a risk. You may be ridiculed or challenged by someone who may not want you to go. There are many uncontrollable variables in any journey.
You have to be able to ask for what you need. If you get lost or need something on the way, you may have to ask someone to help you.
You have to let yourself be at the center of attention. If your journey is successful, people will celebrate you. If your journey fails, you may be harshly criticized.
You have to reward yourself as deserving of being worthy no matter how well the journey goes. You don’t have to be perfect to deserve to enjoy the journey.
You have to express yourself in truth–telling others what they need from you. This means being honest about who you are and what you are capable of. “I’m a great driver.” “I’m good at reading a map.”

First you have to know what you want and get committed to your dream.

Next, cultivate the exact state of mind and body that matches your dream, before it actually happens …

Finally, the most important thing you must know to continually manifest unlimited wealth in your life.

Help! I Don’t Have Enough!!

9 Feb 2013

Healing and abundance is a natural function that occurs when we are connected to our divine source, God. All that is required is aligning ourselves with God and activating our intention.

How do we get disconnected?

When we allow our ego to determine our life path, we experience ourselves as disconnected. Our egos have a tendency to idolize or place importance on things that are truly irrelevant to the truth of who we are. By idolizing things, we misidentify ourselves and become separated from our divine, infinite, eternal source. There are six primary ways our ego idolizes.

What I have is the source of who I am/my power/my value. My possessions define me.
What I do is the source of who I am/my power/my value. My achievements define me.
What others think of me is the source of who I am/my power/my value. My reputation defines me.
My body is the source of who I am/my power/my value. My body defines me.
All that is missing from my life is the source of who I am/my power/my value. My life space is disconnected from my desires.
Pouring energy into all of the above is the source for who I am/my power/my value. I am separate from God

An idol is a construct or focus that we pour energy into because we believe it is a source for what we desire; identity, power, love, money, peace, relationships, etc.

If I have an attractive body. . . . . If I know more. . . . .

If I have more money. . . . . If I could be more spiritual. . .

If I had a great family. . . . If I am popular. . .

If I was American. . . . . If I was perfect. . . .

If I could do more. . . .

Chronic problems/stress such as chronic money problems, chronic dieting, chronic relationship distress, depression, and chronic physical problems are most likely a form of idolatry.

All your energy and power is poured into this “problem” that never seems to resolve. It is like a huge tornado that just spins all your excess effort and energy around in a circle, never really moving forward or changing.

Example: Recently, I realized that I used money obsession: how to handle money better, how to make more money, how to get out of debt, if only my husband could make more money, worry about money, fear about money, too much energy about money, etc., as a source to take away my sadness about my father never wanting to give me anything or give my mother anything. If I felt that sadness, I would be more likely to go shopping. “It doesn’t matter if my dad doesn’t give me money; I can buy it myself and then I won’t care.” I had developed the same kind of relationship with my husband. I was idolizing money as the source to heal all this sadness. Rather than feel and accept the sadness and hurt and fear that no man would ever want to support me; I poured all my excess energy into “money and money problems”. My belief was that somehow more money would be the source to heal the real problem. When I realized that only God can heal and that He is my source and that money problems and money have no power to make this pain feel better or cease to exist, I no longer needed to pour my energy into a useless tornado to feel powerful. Tearing down this idol in my life, reunited me with God and I realized that I was not separate from the real source of love, power and money.

Example: A woman with twenty years of marital instability and the past two years spent in marriage counseling discovered that she and her husband were pouring all their energy into constant marriage discussion that never seemed to move them forward. It was a distraction to avoid the depression her mom felt when she was two and her mom knew her marriage was over. Jill’s fear that her marriage was over and she made it worse, kept her pouring her energy into saving it, discussing it, being responsible for it, etc. She had to acknowledge that all the marriage obsessing in the world would not have the power to get back what she really wanted: her original family, happy and together. She had to accept the fear and depression that she may never get what she really wants in her family. She had to accept that what she has or does not have does not separate her from happiness, love and power. She idolized her family as the source for happiness, love, and security. Without it, she felt helpless and separated from all that she desires. When we tore down that idol, she immediately felt more at peace and connected. She no longer felt drawn into the endless worry and discussions about the marriage.

Forgiveness Statements

I forgive myself for idolizing money as my source for all that I desire.
I forgive myself for idolizing what I have (family) as the source for my happiness and fulfillment.
I forgive myself for using this idolatry of money as a way to feel better about the sadness I felt as a child.
I forgive myself for using this idolatry of family as a source to heal the depression and fear I feel that I will never get what I really want in my relationships.
I give myself permission to tear down the idol and I am no longer separate from all that I desire.
Without this idol, I am free to experience joy and love in my relationships.
Without this idol, I am free to experience happiness and security and support from the divine source.
Without this idol, I am free to stop pouring excess energy into an empty tornado of futile discussion and thoughts.
Without this idol, I am no longer separate from God.
Without this idol, I am connected to my divine Source.

The Secret To Unlimited Abundance

7 Feb 2013

The secret to unlimited abundance is giving, not just giving to get, but really opening up and giving from your heart.

If you are inspired to give more from your heart, I would love to invite you to join EPTworks in an amazing GIVING opportunity. We are hosting The Love Always Wins Inspirational Dinner honoring the women of Coburn Place Safe Haven in Indianapolis on Monday, February 18th at 5-8pm. We invite you to volunteer to serve the women and children of Coburn Place for an evening of Love and Inspiration.

Coburn Place Safe Haven provides women who have suffered from domestic violence and their children a chance to start anew, to finally accomplish a dream that an abusive partner and circumstances prevented.

In addition, I am offering my EPTworks class series (beginner, intermediate and advanced) at no charge to residents and counselors of Coburn Place. Classes will be taught at Coburn Place on 12 (mostly) consecutive Mondays (4-7:30pm) beginning in March and continuing into June. Each class will covered over a period of 4 Mondays. I am inviting previous EPTworks students to participate in these classes at no charge. In place of the usual fee, I only ask that you fully commit to each of the four sessions that make up either a beginner, intermediate or advanced class. You are welcome to take any or all of these classes in exchange for your full commitment to be there for the women of Coburn Place who will be learning this information for the first time.

After twelve weeks of weekly EPTworks training and practice, your level of expertise and confidence helping others with EPTworks will explode!!! Call my office to reserve your space in this amazing giving opportunity!!

We all know it is better to give than to receive; what we may not really understand is why this is the case. It’s simple, really–the more you give of yourself, the more you will receive. By releasing energy, you open a space that must be filled. When you give freely and unconditionally, success and abundance will be your reward.

There is a universal law of giving and receiving. This law is as sure as the law of gravity. Like the law of gravity, the law of giving and receiving can be observed as a natural force within the universe. When you give of your time, energy and resources with no strings attached, you instantaneously set the law of giving and receiving in motion. You become a magnet, attracting success and abundance.

Marenda Taylor writes about The Law of Giving and Receiving, and much of this information comes from her.

There are both scientific and spiritual bases for this universal law of giving and receiving.

The Spiritual Basis:

Whatever you sow, you will also reap. -Galatians 6:7
If you do not sow, you will not reap. How can you receive anything, if you never give anything?

The Scientific Basis:

For every action, there will always be an equal or even opposite reaction–Isaac Newton’s Law of Motion.
If you do nothing, nothing will happen. You must take action for something to occur.

Reasons People Resist Giving:

Many are afraid to give because they feel they will not have enough left for themselves. For most this comes from limiting beliefs about abundance and scarcity.

The person who is afraid to give, will never gain or grow , but will always remain stagnate, keeping only what they already have and never realizing more.

Others will give just a little, feeling a sense of scarcity–but those who give only a little will get only a little in return.

Some people understand the basic principle of giving and receiving and simply give to get. This is a perversion of the law of giving and receiving.

Those with selfish motives will learn the hard way that intentions matter with regard to the law of giving and receiving; it is as immutable as are other natural laws.

Start giving from the heart. By incorporating the law of giving and receiving into your life, you will find that you can indeed give of yourself without having to worry about scarcity. This is nothing short of a spiritual experience. You will begin to feel a kinship with the world around you. This will enable you to truly love others as you love yourself.

Giving produces spiritual and personal growth. When you give unconditionally you build faith in yourself, in others and the entire world. The more you give, the more you will experience joy, love, inner peace and prosperity.

First you have to know what you want and get committed to your dream.

Next, cultivate the exact state of mind and body that matches your dream, before it actually happens …

Now comes the art of manifesting. It’s an amazing journey with clear concise steps to your dream.

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